No one has asked me questions like this before

A few weeks back, we looked at some of the initial questions we might ask you during our first meeting. These are insightful and incisive, and start to give us an idea of where you’ve come from and where you want to go.

Recently we’ve been looking at a few more questions in which we really start to put meat on the bones and to try to understand what you want from this ridiculously amazing life of ours…

As we start to dig a bit deeper, we’ll ask: “If you had enough money to do everything you ever wanted to do now, and in the future, how would you life that life, and what would you change?”

Some people might want to build a ranch in the countryside, others might want to give money to their family, some might still want to be working.

Often, clients are curious as to what others have answered to this question. It doesn’t matter. There are no right or wrong answers. Interestingly, the majority of people’s answers have come across as being ultimately achievable. No one has yet wanted to live on the Moon.

The next two questions are where things get a little more hard-hitting.

The next one is: “If you went to the doctor and were told you had 5 to 10 years to live, how would you change your life?” This may seem like quite an alarming thing to ask, but this helps to focus people on what’s really important, given the removal of our most valuable asset of all; Time.

Most say they wouldn’t work quite so much, they might even quit work. Many say they’d spend more time with family. The answers are rarely about materialistic achievements.

The final question will really focus any other thoughts that might have wandered. We ask: “Imagine you only have 24 hours to live. What did you miss, what did you not get to do, who did you not get to be?

Naturally, this can often be a very emotional question, and people will often say to forget their previous answers and concentrate on these.  

They say they wish they hadn’t worked so hard, they wish they hadn’t missed their children growing up, or they wish they’d fulfilled their potential – be it creatively or otherwise.  

They realise they’ve been living too busy a life and this can make them think about how things could be different.  

This opens up some ideas and thoughts about the future that they might never have realised they had until now.

Many people have never been asked these questions before.

After all, we’re all so busy concentrating on the day-to-day that we don’t have time to think about the bigger things. Unless someone asks you, you might not even think about how you want your life to be.

Having the opportunity to explore that and create your future, rather than just let it happen, can be an inspiring experience.  

 

Alfie Mullan, April 2019

Want to hold a conversation that will quite literally change your life? Well drop me an email and we can get this new life on the road.